No Longer Alone
By: Cherie Carter-Scott
You have the ability to attract your beloved and enjoy the kind of relationship you desire, writes CHERIE CARTER-SCOTT
Love does not “just happen.” It needs to be created in much the same way you would create anything else. Love is also created from your imagination, intention, and deployment. Many mistakenly have thought that just wanting love is the same as seeking love. In order to create love in your life, you need to know what is required within yourself to start the process. There are steps to take to turn the action of partnering from a faraway wish into reality. Taking these steps transforms your search for love from a
game of chance into a conscious game of causality.
About Partnering
Before you proceed down the road of choosing to partner or not, it helps first to understand exactly what a true partnership is. A partnership is a union between two entities. Partnerships of any kind are formed when both people believe that greater benefit lies in uniting energies, talents, and resources than in remaining separate.
In the love arena, partnerships occur when two people come together to create a new reality. As both people move toward each other and connect in the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual realms, they begin to move from separate ‘I’ realities into a combined ‘we’ reality, in which both contribute to the greater ‘we.’ Neither ‘I’ is obliterated; both are simply augmented and enhanced by the chemical fusion with the other. Becoming a ‘we’ reality means that you form a team whose intent is to travel
through life together as a united force.
Ways To Balance
There are pros and cons to partnering. It can cause both positive and negative changes in your life and requires that you find ways to balance these polarities. The positive side is, of course, the hearts and flowers that you see in the movies and read about in romance novels. It is the wonderful rush of adrenaline that falling in love brings, the giddy feeling of being adored, the butterflies that flutter in your stomach when you hear your beloved’s voice, and the warm rush of security you feel when he or she smiles at you from across a crowded room.
Care And Share
For most people, the main advantage is that you will no longer be alone, since you will have someone with whom you can spend your time and share the journey of life. Having a partner comes with some wonderful benefits: you have someone to love you, to give you attention, to take care of you, to act as your companion, to fulfil your sexual needs and desires, to do things with you, and to generally make life more fun. Partnering can provide support when you need it, encouragement when you are fearful, and
empowerment when you have lost your belief in yourself. At its most elevated, a partnership can be a sacred bond in which you can share your innermost secrets, admit your weaknesses, grow in new and astonishing ways, and weave together your hopes and dreams.
Deal With Differences
The downside of partnering is the mirror opposite of its main benefit: You will no longer be alone. If you are no longer alone, that means you are also no longer on your own. You are no longer a standalone entity. You will need to deal with differences between you and your partner — in style, pace, modes of communicating, habits, and preferences. You have to deal with everyday life issues that accompany another person. Your partner, after all, has ideas, feelings, aspirations, habits, quirks, and issues that need to be given the same respect as you give your own.
In other words, you need to make room in your life for another human being. When making choices and decisions, you will have to consider another person; you cannot just do whatever you want whenever you want without considering the other person’s wishes. You will need to confer on everything from how much room you take up in the bed to how to spend your money. You must be willing to make adjustments so that both you and your partner can be happy.
Make Adjustments
Partnership also demands that you be willing, at times, to change your plans to accommodate the other person’s emergencies, needs, or wishes. In partnerships, you must give up some control, along with the need to always have your own way. While you were on your own, you were accustomed to doing whatever you wanted whenever you wanted. The appearance of a mate in your life suddenly changes all that. Having a partner adds a certain degree of complication and adjustment to your life for which you
might not have bargained.
In order to create a partnership that succeeds, you will need to find ways to incorporate both the positive and the negative aspects. You will have to take the challenges with the harmony, the tests with the triumphs, and the issues with the inspiration. Partnership is essentially a package deal that cannot be chosen halfheartedly; it will require all your resources, willingness, and faculties to balance and you will need the strength of your conviction to support you through the journey.
If Love Is A Game, These Are The Rules, Broadway Books
