Soul mates: Are you Spiritually Connected to your
Partner? By Pallavi Thakur
Are you in a Spiritual Relationship?
Almost all of us have a “perfect match” check-list. In theory, the
more of each other’s boxes you can tick off, the more well suited you are for
each other. But what works in theory doesn’t always work when put into practice.
It goes deeper than your surface needs or earthly desires. A spiritual
connection is when you’re souls are attracted to each other and are in sync. Two
people who have a spiritual connection are not just properly aligned - they
bond.
So what exactly is a spiritual partner?
He or she is an ally for personal growth. You both decide that you
want to work together to become your best selves as quickly as possible. You
commit to helping and loving each other - and, here's the key - everyone around
you. Because, it is only when you are living love and kindness that your
relationship will truly flourish. Try it and see…when put into practice, you can
make all your dreams come true.
Creating Wholeness
Maybe that’s why love is often called chemistry when you combine
certain elements, they combine together to create a new unified whole. If and
when you do spiritually connect with someone with whom you are also very
compatible, the relationship is taken to a whole new level. It’s that spiritual
connection that can really drive the passion. When you connect mind, body and
soul, you have all the ingredients for
success.
Signs of Spiritual Connection
Spiritual connections are usually perceived on a much deeper
level. Once spiritually connected, you can get really comfortable with each
other. You probably notice you have different sides to your personality - you
have the side you show your close family/friends and the side you put on in
public at large. When a spiritual connection is sparked, you are able to drop
that public persona and let the other person get to know the real
you.
When you spiritually connect with someone, it usually goes beyond sharing interests, hobbies, religion, political ideologies, education or things like that. When you connect spiritually, you realize you share deeper things - values, principles, a way of looking at the world or a particular point of view.
10 Steps to a Spiritual Relationship
If we use our relationships to make us wiser, kinder and more
compassionate, we can actually change how they function. We can have the
relationships and lives we've always dreamed of. Let's take a look at the steps
to building a spiritual relationship with a soul mate, whether you are married,
taken or single…
Step 1: Commit to something higher!
The element that elevates a partnership is the idea that your role
is to support each other on your path to reach ultimate evolution, to become
your best self. Get clear that what you are looking for is not just physical
security or emotional support but spiritual evolution. Whatever goals you set
for your relationship will dictate how it functions day to day. If your goal is
financial security, don't expect satisfaction. If your goal is evolution of your
body, mind and spirit, expect fulfilment beyond your
dreams.
Step 2: Be what you want your partner to be
Make a list of the qualities you most want in a partner. Instead
of looking for amazing features in someone else, develop them in yourself. For
example, If you want a partner with financial stability, get stable yourself!
You want someone fun? Be fun! The beauty of perception is that you will see all
your own qualities, both good and bad, reflected back to you in your partner. Be
complete in yourself, and you will see completion in your
partner.
Step 3: Cleanse past relationships
Think of your exes. What comes to mind? If it's anything other
than love, you have some work to do. The images and feelings that arise in your
memory color how you experience your current relationships. Learn to forgive. No
matter how bad your past relationship was, it taught you exactly what you needed
to
learn.
Step 4: Recognise change and use it to grow
Part of healing past relationships is embracing change. In
Buddhist philosophy, this understanding is the foundation of wisdom. There's no
start without a finish, no beginning without an end, no life without death. Your
relationship will transform as you each evolve. As spiritual partners, your job
is to love and support each other through this process. Use change for growth -
don't fight
it.
Step 5: Cultivate a daily meditation practice
If you want to see a wise, loving, spiritual partner, you must be
that yourself. Create a daily practice that includes meditation, prayer or deep
contemplation. There are a multitude of studies that prove the mental and
physical health benefits of meditation. Learning to get still and meditate well
is just like anything else: it takes training. Find and practice a method that
speaks to you and connects you to something higher. The time and attention you
give your meditation practice determines the results you will
get.
Step 6: Get physical, every day
You may find this hard to believe but touch, intimacy and
connection are essential ingredients of spiritual partnerships. A satisfying
intimate relationship starts with having a body that you feel good in. Yogic
teachings explore the subtle energetic connections we have with each other. In
order to access these deeper dimensions, your physical form must be healthy.
Commit to a healthy diet that works with your needs. Commit to a regimen that
enlivens you. Do something fun! Turn yourself on, and watch what happens in your
intimate
partnership.
Step 7: Face your demons
We all have shadows that we don't want to see. Being in a
spiritual partnership requires that we grow up into the person we were meant to
be. An essential step is bringing what we most deny in ourselves into the open.
Partnerships are challenging. Your relationship is going to bring all your
darkness to the surface. This is usually when the relationship ends, or when the
trouble starts. Help each other work through the psychological issues that
arise. Otherwise your own shadows will inevitably undo your
relationship.
Step 8: Make your partner feel special
How you treat your relationship will create the results you
experience. Is this the most special person on the planet to you? If so, how
should you treat them? If you relate to them as a sacred being, they will be. If
you treat them as ordinary, they will be. Remember the blissful feelings when
you first met and recreate those times. Dress up, go out to the best restaurant,
or make his/her favorite meal at home. Take time to make everything
special.
Step 9: Align your visions
A spiritual partnership is all about supporting each other's
deepest desires. In order to stay together, your two visions must align. Ask
each other: What do you most wish for? Explore questions with courage and
honesty. Your visions do not need to agree, but they need to align. Find the
common aspects of both of your visions for the future. Maybe one of you wants to
live abroad, while the other wants to live near family. Instead of getting
caught in dualism, look for "mid
ways."
Step 10: Go for your dreams
We are all meant to be the heroes of our own lives. No one can do
it for you, even your spiritual partner. The best thing you can do for your
relationship is to become the being you dream of, the being you were born to
be.
It's OK to get stuck!
Sometimes we become spiritually stuck and cannot evolve in a
relationship. These are not spiritual relationships. These types of
relationships hold us there not allowing for growth or other experiences. It is
true that being a victim, martyr, persecutor, rescuer or love addict may have a
karmic lesson but in this case the spiritual lesson is learning how to let
go.
Togetherness: A Spiritual Celebration!
In conclusion a true spiritual relationship is one where both
parties feel wholeness and complete together. It is the harmonization of male
and female energy, which creates freedom within the relationship to accept each
other unconditionally without hidden agendas. In a true spiritual relationship
one knows how to give or take without being asked and to meet the other party’s
needs without
question.
A small exercise to make life better
Take 10 quiet minutes alone, and do the following contemplation:
Imagine the end of your life. You are happy, healthy 100 years old. You have
accomplished everything and have no regrets, nothing left undone. The 3 people
you are closest to get up to speak of everything you have done and what they
admire about you. Spend some time writing down what they said. Now work towards
the things that you want them to say. It’s a simple way of stepping into that
dream.
Spirituality and Love
A spiritual partnership is a beautiful, powerful method to help
you achieve a perfect relationship and anything else your heart desires. Because
in the end, it all comes down to
love.
