Understanding is as important as Love - Julia
Fernandes
“I understand you to the extent I Love you; the more I Love you the better I
Understand you.”
Most people emphasize on love being a crucial factor in any
relationship. While love is important, yes, understanding in a relationship
takes on an unprecedented importance of its own. In many cases I have seen, its
understanding those little things that prevent many a relationship from hitting
sour notes.
While love is all about giving, understanding is all about holding
back – pausing, holding your thoughts till you get a clear picture. More often
than not things are not always what they seem. Never react blindly to all that
you see, hear or read. It is said that truth puts on its shoes while lies is
busy travelling the whole world.
More than half of all relationship woes can be solved only if
people listen and understand more and talk less. Each person is right in their
own way. It is highly erroneous to judge people whose journey you have no idea
about. It is wrong to belittle or make people feel guilty or make them feel
small just because you have an opinion on how the world should
be.
There are many experiences – good, bad, ugly that sums up a
person’s life and makes them what they are today. Nobody’s
life is all black and white. We all have are greys. I have come to realize that
proving someone wrong does not make you look right in any way! Love is the only
area where you win when the one you love wins, and you lose when the one you
love loses.
This world needs less of righteousness and more of love and
understanding to gently guide people to becoming the best of what they can be.
After all, all of us are work-in-progress. The next time you feel tempted to give someone a peace of
your mind, pause. Hurtful words once
said cannot be retrieved back.
Take time to understand, and you will realize that simple
understanding can do you and your loved one a world of good for understanding is
as important as love!
